Entitlement is a pervasive issue in our world and our homes today. But what does entitlement have to do with parenting?
Entitlement is an attitude that says, I deserve whatever I want. It’s my life. I can make my own choice and I shouldn’t have any consequences because it’s my choice. I’m exempt. And this very idea of being exempt spills over into the choices our kids make on a daily basis—in every way.
An entitled teenage girl has “every right” to privacy on her phone. She can download any app and text whatever kinds of pictures she wants because it’s her phone.
An entitled teenage boy can take whatever advantage he wants of a girl because any girl would be lucky to hang out with him.
How Entitlement Affects Purity
Entitlement affects purity when kids believe their bodies are entirely their own—their bodies, their friends’ bodies, and their smartphones with which they can inappropriately share those bodies.
They are not responsible to God, their parents or the parents of the teen on the other side of the phone.
There are no repercussions. There is only selfishness and impulsivity—two of the primary marks of the normal development of teens. Therefore, they need our help.
Practical Ways Parents Can Fight Entitlement
Entitlement always involves parents. Whether it is financial, emotional or physical, we play a part in the entitlement of the children we love. We give them too many freedoms and too little sense of responsibility.
How do we pull it back?
Start with the small things—and start them small when you can. Your child needs chores around the house. They need responsibilities that are simply a part of living in your home. They need to earn their way toward big-ticket things they want, like gadgets and cars.
You can match their funds, but let them participate in the fundraising. Don’t buy their gifts for them and sign their name for birthdays and holidays. Let them participate in gift giving.
When your teenager has proven himself responsible enough to earn a phone, have a contract that goes with it, ironing out the choices they need to make to keep that phone.
Combining Privilege and Responsibility
Luke 12:48 says, “Much will be required of everyone who has been given much.” Require big things and small things of your teens. Give them privilege, but give them responsibility.
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